CSA has huge effects on the Survivor, and if the survivor is involved in a relationship, then of course the partners will also suffer hugely.
So What happens?
Well, the partners will feel as though they are alone in the relationship, they will probably be mentally, financially and Psychologically abused. The survivor will either have very little sexual contact with his partner, or he will be completely oversexed.
He may suffer from constant rage and anger, probably drinks and abuses other substances.
Porn could be one of his favourite past times, and masturbation is preferred over actual intercourse.
Are you currently experiencing any of the above?
Then you would be in what we call a Co- Dependant relationship. There is a lot more to it than that, but you will need a lot of help to get over this and also to help your partner to heal.
Boundaries need to be set, battle lines drawn and a strict set of rules implemented.
The great thing about a survivor, is that you will Probably end up with a much better man than the one you married in the first place.
Call us for support and guidance and we will assist you with literature and a support group to help you get through this trying time.
Also Check out the helpful resources page, there is a website listed there for you to look at.
I also Found this booklet on-line and this link will take you there Partners of survivors
Remember that you are not alone and that you can help your partner through this, But you MUST help yourself first